What is POP Family Coaching?
Sometimes it’s one’s own parents that need parenting. At least one in four American families is living in crisis today, thrust into a role reversal, where the older generation is either willingly, or being forced by circumstances, to begin to cede decision-making and control to the younger generation. These “adult children,” simultaneously find themselves taking on more and more responsibility for many aspects of their aging parents’ and/or other beloved relatives’ lives. Caregivers are at an even higher risk than others for psychological and physical illness, due to the close shared relationship, emotions, experiences, and memories between the caregiver and care recipient
Jane Wolf Waterman, M.S.W., J.D., has named this role reversal “the 21st century developmental stage of life” in her book entitled Oh My God, We’re Parenting Our Parents! How to Transform this Remarkable Challenge into A Journey of Love [www.ParentingOurParents.org]. She describes this developmental phase of life as the POPcycletm, explaining that this 21st century developmental stage is different from past generations because of the additional stressors now present when combining one’s livelihood with the familial responsibilities of modern life. Her goal is to help POParents travel their POP journey with more “competency and meaning, maybe even more fun and healing.”
Loi is a Certified POP Family Coach. She can coach you and your extended family to create a plan for parenting your elder parents, helping you and your POP Team to agree upon ways to accommodate the parent’s needs, while honoring everyone’s choices, responsibilities and sacrifices. Receiving POP Family Coaching at this stage of parenting can change everyone’s experience, including those being parented. Most families benefit from at least an initial coaching session and follow up session. Typically periodic ‘tune up’ sessions help keep the plan on course, given the ever-changing situations encountered by most families.